The internet has supported a woman for refusing to let her sister-in-law join them at their holiday home on holiday.
In a post on the Reddit forum r / AmITeA ** hole on Tuesday, u / Budget-Problem9946 shared the story that now has thousands of reactions.
She explained: “My husband and I are planning a week’s vacation in my vacation home that I inherited from my parents a few years back. We travel Friday and come home next Friday. We will take my three children, my husband said. with our mutual friends and their two daughters, and I was okay with that.
“I asked him to invite them as our children get along well and they are good company. The holiday home has access to the lake with canoes and kayaks and many fishing / swimming areas. But they can not recover due to work.”
When their friends were unavailable, the woman revealed that her sister-in-law “Jen” had asked if she and her 12-year-old daughter could join them.
“I immediately said no. Absolutely not, under no circumstances,” the Reddit user explained.
She continued: “I know I’ll 100 percent going to sound like a hole here, but I do not like this child and can barely stand my sister-in-law. My sister-in-law raised” Emma “to believe she had autism. Everything Emma does is excused like “well she has autism and does not think or react in the same way as other children.” She is a massive bully for both children and adults. I can not even count how many times she has looked at me while I talk and said “Will you just stop talking? It’s very annoying. “
Jen had told the couple that her daughter needed a “mental break” from school and asked if they could follow, but when the Reddit user refused because “this is meant to be our break, not an extra headache,” the woman was furious.
“Now she smokes on us,” it said on the poster. “To say that her child needs a break and that she feels we are unnecessarily harsh.”
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported that 1 in 44 children in the United States is diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder. With boys being four times more likely to be diagnosed with autism than girls, the diagnosis in boys is around 1 in 27, while girls are diagnosed in 1 in 116.
Reddit users overwhelmingly agreed with the poster, and told her that she was right to deny her sister-in-law and her niece on holiday.
One commenter said: “Although Emma has autism, it is an explanation for behavior, but not an excuse,” while another wrote: “If her child needs a break, then she is welcome to give that break. She does not get to get others to do it for her. “
“This is a holiday, not a therapy session or summer camp for [your] sister-in-law and difficult child “, agreed another user.
Another Redditor said, “You have no obligation to bring people on vacation, especially people you do not even like.”
“She can rent an Airbnb on her own, in a quiet place,” suggested another commenter. “Your time should not be wasted. I’m constantly surprised that people are trying to honk on free rides.”
Newsweek has contacted u / Budget-Problem9946 for comment.
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