The Internet defends uncle who refuses to take his nephew “out of control” on vacation

Members of a popular Internet forum were quick to defend a man who explained why he was taking two of his three nephews on vacation, but not the third.

In a viral Reddit post published on r / AmITheA ** hole, Redditor u / Tobeadessertman (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said that he hosted the three boys to prepare for the trip and told about the events who left a nephew on the outside looking in.

With the title “[Am I the a**hole] for taking two of my nephews on vacation with me, but not the other? ” The post has received almost 11,000 votes and 1,600 comments in the last six hours.

The original poster said he was childless and doing a good job, saying he recently decided to take his three nephews – two from Sister Lisa and one from Sister Annie – on a 14-day trip to the sea.

But before he set out on the journey, the original poster said he had all three boys over a weekend to measure how a two-week vacation would feel for the whole group.

“The boys came, and at first we had a lot of fun,” wrote OP. “I [ordered] us pizza, we watched a movie, played football, etc.

After a great first night, however, the original poster said that the next morning brought nothing but chaos – and a difficult decision.

I woke them up and gave them cereal [8-year-old] throws the cereal on the floor and says ‘I have waffles for breakfast’, “wrote OP.” He said he does not like cereals [and] I told him he could only have some toast with peanut butter or some fruit. He yelled at me not to make waffles for him. “

“That day he also cut up my shirt because I did not let him have cakes for lunch, and told me I was kidding to tell him to eat his vegetables,” OP continued. “He was [a] nightmare.”

“When my sister came to pick them up, I told Annie what happened, and she said, ‘Oh, he’s just uplifted.’ I told her I would not take him on holiday, “he added.” My parents and some aunts have bitten my head off for treating my children differently and refusing a boy to go to sea just because he behaved badly once. . “

The typical family vacation on the beach usually involves parents and children gathering in a fully loaded car while trying to stay civilian long enough to ensure that everyone has at least as much fun.

A holiday with an uncle, aunt or other relative outside the immediate family may look similar – but with the potential for much more fun.

But getting rid of the funny uncle and aunt or gentle grandparents who encourage occasional rule bends requires more diligence and comes with even more bureaucracy than traveling with parents.

From birth certificates and passports to relevant medical information, the parenting site Hello Motherhood recommends that non-parent family members bring written permission and other documentation proving that children are with relatives who are able to care for them while on vacation – and it’s just the paperwork. the situation.

When it comes to holidays with relatives, the question of discipline can prove difficult for both adults and children.

Because uncles, aunts, grandparents and other family members are not usually involved in disciplining children other than their own, enforcing certain parental rules may be hesitant, which can trigger overwhelming chaos and bad times for everyone involved.

Members of Reddit’s r / AmITheA ** hole were behind a man who explained why he did not want one of his three nephews to go on holiday with him.
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In his viral Reddit post, the original poster said that the idea of ​​a tentative weekend with his nephews was meant to combat the potential for chaos, and that he wanted to make sure the three boys could get along well enough alone under his care. And when it became clear that this was not a possibility, the original poster decided to remove the most obvious perpetrator from the holiday equation.

Through the comments section of the post, the Redditors defended this decision and called out the upset family members of the original poster for wanting to overlook the nephew’s disruptive behavior.

“[Not the a**hole]”wrote Redditor u / toomanydogs3 in the top comment of the post, which has received almost 12,000 votes.” Your 8-year-old nephew has serious problems that his mother ignores. “

“Does he cut up a shirt because he could not have cakes for lunch?” they asked. “It’s very disturbing behavior.”

Redditor u / ForgottenZodiac, whose comment has received almost 10,000 votes, gave a similar answer and applauded the original poster so as not to let one nephew’s actions ruin the holiday plans for the others.

“You should not have to deal with a spoiled boy if you do not want to. [Especially] if he is not yours, “they wrote.” Rewarding the other two nephews for being good and taking them is lovely and super nice of you. “

In a separate comment, which has received almost 3,000 votes, Redditor without teresajs called up OP’s sister and left the responsibility for an extended family holiday to his other relatives who were so worried that his nephew was excluded.

“It’s not to ‘behave badly once,'” they wrote. “Your nephew is spoiled and out of control. At his age, it is usually a consequence of poor parenting. “

“If your relatives think your nephew deserves a vacation, they are more than welcome to take him,” they added.

Newsweek contacted u / Tobeadessertman for comment.